I've been going through a lot of debate lately on when's the right time to get married, what are the criteria of the best husband aka prince charming & what not to compromise when finding a decent man. I don't always get into that debate, i try to stay neutral, especially after i listen to so many opinions which are all right sometimes.
My hair dresser says: A man wants to get married at 3 phases in his life, 21, 26 & 35. If he passes any phase he would want to wait for the next stop to think about it again. That's the best timing to start husband hunting.
A guy friend of mine says: Marriage is a waste of time & money not to mention it ruins friendships & real relationships.
My mother says: 27 is the right age for you to get married, before that don't even think about it unless it's prince of Wales.. well mom too bad, he's taken!!
My grandmother doesn't say much but i'm pretty sure she thinks i'm a spinster since she started giving me hints about getting married when i turned 17, that was like 6 years ago!
A girl friend of mine doesn't miss a chance to traditionally get introduced to guys, it doesn't matter if they're losers, doctors.. anything just to make sure she doesn't miss that train.. literally!
Another girl friend of mine has certain criteria for the marriage in mind, a checklist with figures & prices. If they're not met, there's no need to even pass by for that coffee.
An older girl friend of mine says: Don't compromise anything, he should want you for who you are. You should be the one wearing the pants & showing him how it's done.. Sometimes i wonder why she's still single (nothing wrong with that, just saying!)
Anyways just wanted to give you a thought of what's going on here. What do you think? I'll let you know what i think in my next post :)
Good night everyone!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZyIdICb3Uk
My hair dresser says: A man wants to get married at 3 phases in his life, 21, 26 & 35. If he passes any phase he would want to wait for the next stop to think about it again. That's the best timing to start husband hunting.
A guy friend of mine says: Marriage is a waste of time & money not to mention it ruins friendships & real relationships.
My mother says: 27 is the right age for you to get married, before that don't even think about it unless it's prince of Wales.. well mom too bad, he's taken!!
My grandmother doesn't say much but i'm pretty sure she thinks i'm a spinster since she started giving me hints about getting married when i turned 17, that was like 6 years ago!
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| Caricature showing a woman's criteria of her prince charming at different ages. Starting for Brad Pitt look a like to NOTHING, just the fact that he's a man! |
Another girl friend of mine has certain criteria for the marriage in mind, a checklist with figures & prices. If they're not met, there's no need to even pass by for that coffee.
An older girl friend of mine says: Don't compromise anything, he should want you for who you are. You should be the one wearing the pants & showing him how it's done.. Sometimes i wonder why she's still single (nothing wrong with that, just saying!)
Anyways just wanted to give you a thought of what's going on here. What do you think? I'll let you know what i think in my next post :)
Good night everyone!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZyIdICb3Uk
When you find the right guy, just go for it! forget about the age brackets, dont make any sense, thats what i think in simple words
ReplyDeleteWow.. If only women put this much thought into their careers, think where we'd be as a nation! It hurts my head to think this much about a trivial subject; and I am a woman. Don't get me wrong - I am not against marriage. It's just that if you work hard at what you do, go after your childhood dreams & make a name for yourself as a successful, kind & contributing individual. You become more desirable. Everything else will come - the money, the great friends & maybe even a wonderful life partner.
ReplyDeleteIt's sad that Arab women have check lists for what they want in their partners but neglect to jot down check lists for themselves. Having said that, this is a good post Salwa & very relevant to our time.
:) First it's my first visit here and I'm sure it's not gonna be the last.
ReplyDeleteJust 6 months ago I would've said 27 is the right age, however love is a prior step to marriage and love picks its own perfect timing so this means to me at least that marriage can't have a perfect age, but a perfect chance:)
Thank you all for your sweet comments, it proves a lot of people wrong when they say we don't have intellectual people in Jordan. Well, no we do & women are on the up-rise as well. To be honest I'm still figuring out the right answer as there is no right answer until we're 20 years in history :) I'll keep you updates with my day to day findings though <3
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